Hi beautiful people,
Have you ever wondered, why some of us are so engrossed about being in a relationship with some guy or any guy? We just want someone to love us and despite the constant hurt, we are determined to search for that one person or hoping that person finds us. Then we put up with whatever comes with it. Well, this may not be the case for you but it was for me, even when I was hurt ill put the blam on my self, it had to be something that I was not doing right. From my past experience of dating, I learnt to accept people as they are and never to expect that I can change them. We barely cant change ourselves without commitment or perseverance, let alone you changing a human being. In fact the more you try changing people to what you think they should become, the more you seem to be a control freak and eventually, they lose it. This then leads to another heartbreak for you to handle, people will change only if they decide to change.
So, why is it so hard to let go of a person who clearly does not show us love. For me, it clearly dawned on me that my definition of love was tented and neither did I truly love my self. And because love makes the world go round they say, it’s only normal that we search for what we don’t have and since I didn’t have a good framework to follow, my understanding of love was based on how love was expressed around me. So when it seemed like I found love even in the darkest place, I cherished it and letting go even when I was hurting was tough because it felt like I may never find love again. So what do you do, if this defines how you have experienced love and it feels like the hurt never ends, it has become a vicious circle? What that clearly means is, to find love you first have to take time to understand what love truly means.
I began to understand what love meant when I experienced the love of God, a love that’s unconditional and even with my imperfections He still loves me. The Word of God was my blueprint to understanding what it meant to love a person or to be loved. Then I had to study books and listen to audio teachings on love not romantic love as the world sees it, but how to genuinely love people. I am not perfect at practising love because sometimes I do fall short but regardless, I strive daily to learn, correct, grow and practise love in any given opportunity. With these practices, I slowly began to love my self more, which then gave me an understanding of what I should expect from a person that truly loves me. No one is perfect, so yes we should give room for mistakes but Love is not a burden, true Love is peaceful.
xoxo
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