Friendship bondage,
Friends friends friends, for me I strongly believe that friendship is a gift to us if we find the right friend. But what happens when a friend becomes a nightmare oops, now that’s where the problem begins. for some time now, I have been saying I wish I had friends that will be there for me, and I guess that’s what most people want in a friend. But it is important you ask yourself a question which is, am I also there for that friend. if you strongly believe you are and been there for them is beginning to drain you then this write-up is for you.
How do we identify that she is not really a friend?
- She rarely acknowledges your opinions.
- You rarely get a compliment from her to you .
- You quarrel over minor issues and she escalates them to major issues.
- You don’t speak to each other for days despite both of you are on the same social network platform.
- You send a message and she reads it but takes her 3 to 5 or even 10 days before you get a response.
- You send her a message expressing your heart problems and she replies back with one word.
- Secrets you shared with her are been used against you either through gossip among other people or when you both have a fight or an argument.
- Having her in your life, emotional drains you.
- Her ideas of fun do not aline with your values.
- When you’re around her, your instinct tells you there so much envy and jealous around her towards you.
- When she’s going for her trips, she would rather go alone then take you with her.
- She withholds important information from you.
- The only time you get her attention is when she needs something from you and this could range from your attention because she’s lonely, your money or your clothes, you name it.
- You hold on to this friendship because your afraid that you might never get another friend, so she uses this against you and manipulates your feelings.
So, I have literary listed some pointers that can help you identify if she is really a friend. if your relationship with your friend falls within this categories then it high time you begin to walk away from this person. No one has the right to keep you under the friendship bondage, it is draining, depressing, frustrating and sad. Why waste time nurturing a friendship that will never grow, instead spend that time investing in yourself to becoming a better person and who knows you might just attract the next good person. Making friends is key but don’t rush to make friends, take your time in knowing that person. Do they have the values I have, do we have a common interest and can I call this person a good friend. These are the questions that should resonate in your head when making friends.
How can you identify a friend you want when you meet them, well its only time that will tell. Time will tell as they display their behaviours and personality types. So quite rushing to make friends or bff’s and be confident in yourself, love yourself and your own company so that you just don’t have friends for the sake of having them but you will have friends that bring value and happiness to you. Remember we are not perfect but we are responsible for the way we treat people around us and the key principle of treating people is LOVE.
xoxo
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